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7 signs you learned Spanish in Latin America

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1. Words like ¨pared¨ ¨dueño¨ ¨suave¨ sound dirty to you

Yes, Reggaeton has ruined your spanish.

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2. … and so does ´coger´ 

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3. You might say ´vos´ or ´tu´, but in plural you will always use the polite form 

“Ustedes son unos hijos de p*ta!”

Use of Ustedes in spanish

.. a bit like Canadians

4. You cringe a bit when you hear Spanish people talk with the “z” 

5. You think ´ahorita´ is an acceptable word 

… and diminuish other words aswell. Right, mamita?

6. You think a coche is something for children, not for adults 

Spanish guys trying to impress you be like

“Are you joining me in mi coche?”

And you…

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“Really?”

7. You bump into little misunderstandings and discussions with people from another part of Latin America (or Spain) about what is the ´real Spanish´ 

You meet someone from another Spanish speaking country, get all excited and start ranting and they are like “Great story but..

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“Are those words even real spanish? “

How to keep contact with your friends and family during your exchange

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... and how not to

As a returnee, there are many advises I can give you. And you have probably heard all of them.
“Enjoy your exchange, it is the best year of your life, make the most of it” etc etc. But the reality of an exchange is often harder than it seems. People keep telling you to have a good time, while in fact you might be having a really hard time. You miss home, you miss your friends and if you could you would Skype with them all the time.

Don’t.

Instead try to keep in mind the following when keeping contact with your family.

 Avoid constant contact with your friends and family back home

I know this seems harsh, but the fact is that being in contact with home constantly will not only keep you away from the experience of being there, it will also make the homesickness much and much worse. Yes it may seem to help at first, but in reality it will only make you realize that what you have back home that you don’t have in your host country. And yes, you might not have friends that know you completely. Your host family might not understand you at all times. But that is the experience. It is a once in a lifetime opportunity and you should – yes, I will say it again – make the most out of it. photo-1414604582943-2fd913b3cb17

Regulate/schedule the times on which you Skype with your friends and family 

Does that mean you can never talk to your loved ones? Of course not. But keep it regulated. Make a schedule and don’t talk to them more than once every few days. Having a fixed time for talking to your friends and family back home might help you feel more calm, because instead of every time you miss them you will talk and using the contact as some kind of drug, you are regulating it.

Write a blog

Sometimes you just have all these thoughts and emotions that you want to share with people – or maybe not. One thing I can definitely recommend from my exchange is keeping a blog.

Why?

First of all, because everyone can read it. That means you don’t have to tell your mother, aunt, cousin, friends and neighbours all individually what exactly you did that weekend. This will safe you a lot of time in unnecessary conversations on social media. If you don’t your feelings to be out in the open, you can always keep an email list and send it to everybody personally.

Another reason why keeping a blog is great is because later you can read it back and remember all the little details of your exchange, which is great! (Trust me, you will forget about 80% of what happened)

In the end you will probably not write on your blog as often as you’d like, but that’s okay. You can even just make smaller updates of maybe 100 or 200 words. Any update will be read with a lot of joy back home and keeps them updated on how you are doing.

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Write letters

Another great way of writing off your emotions is to write letters. During your exchange you will probably start appreciating your friends and family much more than you did before. Let them know!

Let’s face it, it doesn’t get more personal than a letter. I think every time I received a letter from my mother I cried, no matter what she wrote down, and I know she had the same reaction to my letters. You just don’t get that kind of intimacy through a Whatsapp message.

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Don’t tell them about all the times you are feeling down

I know you want to tell them. You want to tell someone you know (and someone who knows you) but the truth is, when you are having a good time you will probably not tell them. Not so explicitly. That means that in the end, parents get worried, friends think you are having a bad time while in fact, you are probably only having a bad time when you are talking to them.

It happened to me that a lot of people started sending me messages asking me if I was alright. Apparently I had told my mom I was having a hard time, but that feeling passed. Not for my mom. And when my family asked her how I was doing, she told them what I had told her; that I was having a bad time. By the time the messages reached me I had already forgotten that I was feeling down the days before.

In conclusion, it is very hard for your family to know what is going on. They don’t know the cultural context and they don’t know the experience of studying abroad. The information you give them is always limited and that’s all they get, and although it might seem comforting your parents or friends are probably the last people who are going to understand what you are going through. 

My parents often tried to give me well-meant advice. “Can’t you just..” “But why don’t you just.. “. No, actually it is not that easy and it is hard to explain that to someone who hasn’t been there.

Remember it is only for a limited period of time

And although that might seem like an eternity right now, time will pass by extremely fast and before you know it you are back home on the couch with your parents. Only you don’t have so many things to tell them, because you already told them everything when you were there. In your exchange, as in life, there is only one certainty: it will end! Once you are back home you are going to wish you had spent less time on the internet talking to the people you would eventually talk to again and more time talking to the people around you.

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The Statistics of Studying Abroad – The kind of people that study abroad

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The kind of people that study abroad

Going on an exchange has many benefits. I have noticed that since my year abroad, I have become a different person. I am more patient, I easily adapt to new situations. I can very easily accept it when things don’t go the way I planned them to go. These however are very subjective things, and every exchange student depending on their personality, their experience and their attitude will learn different things. These things are also very vague, because what exactly does it mean to be a ‘different person’, and what can it bring you in live?

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To make the studying abroad experience a little more concrete for everybody,the University of California has summarized some of the existing studies on the statistics of studying abroad.
One thing that stands out is that almost all of these numbers are positive numbers.

For example, 90% of the students who had studied abroad got into their 1rst or 2nd choice of grad school, and for those who are more interested in finding a job – you are twice as likely to find a job within 10 months if you have studied abroad (2012 IES Abroad Recent Graduate Study). Around 80% also found they had learned valuable skills during their time abroad and that the experience helped them better adapt to diverse working environments (AIFS Study Abroad Outcome).

However, these are still very vague definitions, and people like to see numbers. And as luck would have it, in the earlier mentioned study of IES one very concrete number came out:

Those who have studied abroad make on average 25% more than those who havent.

They earn on average $7,000 more in starting salaries, compared to the general college graduate population. Over the course of ones life, in the United States this can add up to $567,000. And that’s a lot of money. That is more than half a million. If you are interested, here is a list of what you can buy for that kind of money.

And to give an example for all the exchange students out there: Yes, you can buy a lot of food for that money.

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What is interesting about this is how you interpret these statistics. Because does this mean that if you study abroad, you will automatically make 25% more than the ‘general college population’?

First of all, these statistics are on average, so they are in no way a guarantee that you will actually make that kind of money after you graduate. However, this number is quite significant and I don’t think you can call it a coincidence. Yet I think these statistics might not necessarily have anything to do with studying abroad, I think it has to do with the kind of people who study abroad. 

Because the kind of people who study abroad are the ones that take initiative. They think outside the box, they take action, they are willing to adapt themselves to a new environment, willing to open themselves up to new situations. They are – yes I am becoming a little bit cheesy here – brave. They are a different kind of people and even though the experience of studying abroad probably only helped them in developing these good characteristics, the fact that they were willing to study abroad already made them part of this special group of people, of which many people are already a part.

The question is – are you?

Because this group is endless. Although it is an elite group, it does not have boundaries. That is probably the main philosophy of exchange students: not knowing boundaries, or at least challenging them. These statistics are merely an extra piece of evidence of something that we already knew – that exchange students are awesome.

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15 songs that are secretly about your exchange

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We know that being on an exchange is a unique experience and sadly not all that many can relate to that. But it seems as if the big stars in music have had a  similar experience, because the things they mention are oddly familiar to the experiences we have as exchanges students. Here are 15 songs that relate to your exchange year

1. About arriving to your host country for the first time
Party In The U.S.A – Miley Cyrus

¨I hopped off the plane at L.A.X. with a dream and my cardigan
Welcome to the land of fame, excess, whoa! am I gonna fit in?
Jumped in the cab, here I am for the first time
Look to my right, and I see the Hollywood sign

This is all so crazy, everybody seems so famous
My tummy’s turnin’ and I’m feelin’ kinda homesick
Too much pressure and I’m nervous
That’s when the taxi man turned on the radio

And the Jay-Z song was on
And the Jay-Z song was on
And the Jay-Z song was on

So I put my hands up, they’re playin’ my song
The butterflies fly away
I’m noddin’ my head like Yeah!
Movin’ my hips like Yeah!

Got my hands up, they’re playin’ my song
And now I’m gonna be okay
Yeah! It’s a party in the USA!¨

2. About the rollercoaster of feelings
22 –  Taylor Swift

“Yeah, we’re happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time
It’s miserable and magical”

 

3. About cultural learning

Pocahontas – colors of the wind

¨You think the only people who are people,
Are the people who look and think like you
But if you walk the footsteps of a stranger
You´ll learn things you never knew you never knew¨

4. About accepting to eat weird food

Hakuna Matata – The Lion King

“Listen. Kid, if you live with us, you’ll have to eat like us”

“Oh well, hakuna matata!”

 5. About what your exchange turns out to be

Good Riddance – Green day

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why
It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right,
I hope you had the time of your life.

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time
Tattoos and memories and dead skin on trial
For what it’s worth it was worth all the while

It’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right,
I hope you had the time of your life.


 

6. About making all the crazy moments the best memories
Memories – David Guetta feat Kid Cudi

¨All the crazy shit I did tonight, those will be the best memories¨

7. About appreciating your home country, your family and friends more
Love You More – Racoon

¨cause i´ve been away too long
And everyday I missed you more
You look like you did before, only prettier
And everyday I love you more¨

8. About never forgetting where you come from

Don’t forget your roots my friend – Six60

“Don’t forget your roots, my friend
Don’t forget your family, yeah
Don’t forget your roots, my friend
The ones who made you
The ones who brought you here”


9. About being broke
Macklemore & Ryan Lewis – Thrift Shop

” Only got twenty dollars in my pocket”


10. About how hard exchange can be
The Scientist – Coldplay

¨Nobody said it was easy, but no one ever said it would be this hard ¨

11. About homesickness

Jet lag – simple plan

“What time is it where you are?
I miss you more than anything
And back at home you feel so far
Waitin’ for the phone to ring
It’s gettin’ lonely livin’ upside down
I don’t even wanna be in this town
Tryin’ to figure out the time zones makin’ me crazy

You say good morning
When it’s midnight
Going out of my head
Alone in this bed
I wake up to your sunset
And it’s driving me mad
I miss you so bad”

12. About personal growth

Son of Man – Tarzan (Phil Collins)

“Though there’s no one there to guide you
No one to take your hand
But with faith and understanding
You will journey from boy to man”

 13. About people mispronouncing your name

That´s not my name – The Ting Things

14. What you and your fellow exchangers feel at the end of the year
The Final Countdown – Europe

¨We´re leaving together
But still it´s farewell
And maybe we´ll come back
To earth, who can tell

Will life ever be the same again?
It´s the final countdown¨

15. About ending your exchange
I was here  – Beyoncé

¨I was here
I lived, I loved
I was here
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here¨

Do you know any other songs that you feel relate to your exchange?
Leave a comment and tell me which one! I´d love to hear more examples!

12 tips on how to get the most out of your exchange year (by RETURNEES)

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Being an exchange student is hard work. So much so that sometimes we forget that we sometimes wonder why we decided to do it in the first place. We forget that it all goes by in the blink of an eye, wasting our time like we have a lifetime to waste, but once it’s over you will want to go back. Trust me.

To future exchange students: these all may seem pretty logical, but trust me; sooner or later you will struggle with one of these things. And that´s okay. It´s part of the process. Just take note and enjoy your exchange to the fullest!

To current exchange students: This post is not to tell you what you are doing wrong. This post is not meant to tell you you have to be the perfect exchange student. The perfect exchange student doesn’t exist, at some point we all need a moment to ourselves to process everything that’s going on instead of spending time with your host family. However, this list was put together by returnees. These are things people would do differently if they would get the chance. This list is to remind you that an exchange is only for a year and that you need to get as much out of it as possible

1. Always say ‘yes’ to new things

Your host family is asking you to come to the supermarket? Your grandmother is offering you some food? Just go with it! Try to say yes to everything, even if you end up in really strange situations, you will always have a good story to tell afterwards.

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2. Learn the language

This seems pretty obvious, still a lot of exchange students struggle with this. Learning a language is hard and sometimes it’s just easier to speak English. However, spending time learning the language will ALWAYS pay off. You don’t want to come home and realize that you lived somewhere and that you don’t even know the language. You say you will keep practicing, but life get’s in the way. Your exchange year is the time to learn the language. You will have to sooner or later, so why not sooner?

Learning the language will help you in every aspect of your exchange and even though every exchange is a unique experience, it will without a doubt increase the quality of your exchange, so strop procrastinating and get to work!

3. Take initiative

I have often complained about the fact that my classmates didn’t talk to me, people didn’t ask me out to do stuff, but when I came home I realized: It wasn’t their exchange. They have their friends, their lives, they don’t need to be friends with me. I on the other hand had nobody else and spent my afternoons alone in my room untill one of the other lonely exchange students  asked me if I wanted to do something.

Your exchange is what you make of it and other people don’t have ANY obligation towards you. You want to do something fun?  Don’t  just sit around and wait, make it happen!

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4. Don’t spend too much time at ‘home’ or online

And with ‘home’ I mean your home country. Of course everyone misses their family and friends, but talking to them for hours will only make it harder. Don’t waste your time on Facebook, Skype or Whatsapp, because it won’t bring you anything good, in fact ( after you are done reading this post of course 😉 ) turn of your laptop, tablet or phone and go do something!

This is probably one of the biggest struggles for exchange students and it’s understandable. When people are talking it’s so easy to get out your phone and scroll through your news feed, but you know what? Have you ever seen those posts that say “Nobody will remember the nights you got plenty of sleep”, but a good night of sleep or a strange dream can be remembered. On the other hand, who remembers having an actual good time scrolling through their Facebook news feed?

5. Make friends from your host country as well as exchange students

Yes exchange students are awesome. You don’t even have to try and you can talk to them like you’ve known each other forever. To make some good local friends, it takes a whole lot of effort, but don’t forget where you are! The best way to engage with the local culture is to have some friends who are from there and  can tell you about it.
You can still hang out with your exchange friends, but don´t forget to find a balance because it sucks to go home and realize that there is hardly anyone in your host country you can actually talk to.

6. Be a part of your host family

No matter how strange or annoying they may seem sometimes, these people decided to open their house for you. They decided they wanted to open their world and share it with you. Some families struggle with it more than others, but in the end they are your new family, so treat them with respect. Don’t expect it to be like a hotel, because it’s not. If they ask you do clean, do it, because that’s what people do when they live under one roof.

You can try calling them “mom” and “dad”, however uncomfortable that may be sometimes. If you say it enough times, your mind-set will change and you will come to see them more as a family than just the people who are hosting you and they will start seeing you as a part of the family instead of just a guest.

7. Have some cultural perspective

Things will often seem strange but remember there is always a reason why they do it, and the biggest reason is probably that they have been raised that way the same way you were raised to do things in a different way. It´s what you came for; to learn about the differences and cross those cultural barriers instead of judging them.

I can tell from experience it is really easy to judge or generalize a culture based on the people you are around, yet when you talk with someone else they will tell you something completely different. The truth is, there is no truth. Sometimes it´s even hard to know who you are, or to generalize a group of let´s say 100 people, let alone a country with millions of people.

8. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes

Nobody has ever arrived to a new country making no mistakes, and nobody will blame you if you do. This might sound very logical but it is always better to try and fail than to not try at all. Go out, try and make mistakes. It´s part of the experience.

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9. Talk to somebody about your problems
But not your parents

It is good to talk to your host family or your exchange organization about any problems you are having. The only way people will know you are feeling bad  about something is when you speak up. An exchange is not easy and people will (or should) understand that.

Talking to your parents back home is probably a bad idea since they will easily get worried and they have no idea what the culture is like. It might feel comfortable to talk to them but they are probably the last people who can actually do something for you.

You can talk to a returnee from your own country that went to the same place. They will probably have had the same struggles and can understand why you are encountering these problems and give you some advice, knowing the culture and costums of your host country.

10. Ask if you don’t understand something

This might seem obvious, yet you don´t ask often enough. Asking is the best way to get to know the culture because then you don´t only see it but you will also discover the thought behind it. Asking too much is almost impossible for an exchange student.

11. Accept that not everything is perfect

You probably had expected your year was going to be amazing and that you were going to make lots of friends, but at some point you realize it ain´t all unicorns and rainbows. And that´s okay, because neither was your life at home. Life in general just has ups and downs, and the downs might feel a little downer than they did at home, but in the end it will all be worth it, trust me!

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12. Don’t ever give up!

This might be the most important one of all. I know how hard an exchange can be and how much you want to just give up, go home to your own bed, your own family where you don´t have to tip toe around. Not having to struggle with the language. Having good friends around you. Tasting your mothers food again. It might seem like it is not worth it.That you picked the worst country, the worst organisation, the worst school. You think an exchange is just not for you, but you are wrong! Every exchange student has their struggles. Some more than others, but we have probably all had a moment where we wondered why we decided to just leave everything we ever knew and go to another country.

It´s because exchange students are different. If it were easy everybody would do it,  but it´s not. However, the bad moment will pass. There are two certainties in your exchange: it will be difficult, and you will go home afterwards. The months you have left may seem like a long time, but as soon as they are over you wonder what happened to them. And sooner or later you will appreciate the hard times you lived and you will be so grateful for not giving up, I guarantee you this.

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PS. If you do ever feel like giving up and going home, you can always reach out to me and talk about your problems, you can find the necessary information on the contact page.